I feel other peoples emotions immensely. In the past I would often take other’s emotions on as my own. It is hard to explain. I would feel myself become nervous, anxious, sad, worried, angry, or fearful and I could not explain why. Logically in my head I was not feeling that way and I could not identify the thing that had triggered the emotion.
It was all very confusing and exhausting until I read an article on what it means to be an empath, then it all made sense. Not only did it make sense but I started learning how to separate my personal feelings from what I was picking up from others and not letting myself get pulled off center by them.
I have had a pretty good handle on this since I was about 25. Knowing when I need to pull in my “feelers”, when it is time to retreat, allowing myself time to recharge, and spending time in nature are all things I use to cope with my over-sensitivities.
I am able to stay longer at large parties or events and not be over stimulated by loud music and voices by using what I call a shield. It is a conscious practice where I can fade unimportant noises and voices into the background.
It is like my “feelers” extend way beyond where most peoples do, not just beyond but in a through what is around me. I have learned that I can control this and I can pull it in closer to just my own being. It takes focus though and it is hard to communicate well while doing this. But I can enjoy a concert, an art show or other public event without the day of exhaustion that used to happen after such events. I am learning how to communicate better in these situations but it is not without effort.
It is funny to me how everyone has always thought I was shy because of how I had to cope with my over sensitivities. Shy to me infers a fear or insecurity and that is not at all what I have dealt with all my life. Introverted and empathic are totally different from being shy. Or maybe shy was just the word invented before we understood introversion and being empaths…. hmmm….
Anyways, these are just my random thoughts this Thursday morning. It is good to look back and see how far we have come and celebrate our successes.
Celebrate what you’ve accomplished, but raise the bar higher each time you succeed. – Mia Hamm
What are some of your successes? What obstacles have you overcome?